Happy and Hard-to-Fool 

A 3-day Retreat for Women led by JAC Patrissi


December 6–8, 2019 


Practicing Power and Discernment in Your Relationships



Growing A New Heart is now accepting reservations for its 3-day retreat in Western Massachusetts. The retreat fee of $525 includes all activities, shared meals, and lodging. This is an extraordinary opportunity to explore the nature of human relationships and make yourself a stronger, more successful partner and self-advocate.




Learn principles and tools to prepare you for happy and fulfilling relationships. Learn when to work harder, and when to stop working so hard. Together we let go of the messages that don’t serve us, and embrace the power of our wisest, most joyful selves in loving connection to others. This workshop is helpful for young women new to intimate partnerships, and for more mature women who are sorting through their relationship histories. The skills we practice will also strengthen your family and professional connections. If you have been in any kind of relationship with family, friends or intimate partners who have unresolved trauma, mental health issues, untreated addiction, or chronic immaturity, or who have been emotionally or physically coercive or abusive, this retreat will be especially helpful to you. 

This retreat will help you: 

  • Build relationships that are clear, satisfying, and mutually loving
  • Learn how to insist and why
  • Know when to stop trying and why
  • Gain supportive connections
  • Support other women in your community



December 6–8, 2019 


Bird Hill Farm , Ware, Massachusetts 


$525 (includes all meals and accommodations) 




Please email me to register at jac@growinganewheart.org.





“There’s a kind of disconnectedness, alienation, that you feel when you’ve left an abusive relationship. You no longer feel real; you need to regain your identity and build yourself up from nothing. You’re at once extraordinarily vulnerable and yet impenetrable.  

“The retreat is the healing place that allows you to put yourself back together. JAC teaches by weaving innovative and startlingly clear insights, well-referenced research and a sense of wellness and spirituality. You begin to understand that you’re not a flawed person just because you’ve undergone abuse. She shares stories that are poignant and undeniable in their obvious truth; they are stories that keep giving, as I have been thinking about them for years now, learning new things. And funny. What’s surprising is that we laughed a lot! 

“Her profound compassion towards everyone creates an atmosphere of peace, sisterhood, and comfort. There’s exercises and work in her seminar, but it’s work you find yourself wanting to do. You begin to identify ways to process your experience and grieve the familiar self you lost.  It’s like coming home, after being away a long time. Later, when I looked back, I could see the process she set up for us to go through; it’s a respectful and careful structure. 

“JAC and her assistants managed to make 50 attendees all feel personally cared for, for an entire weekend. I would recommend this at any stage of life, at any stage of relationship. It’s prophylactic as well as reparative. You’ll just come out wiser.” 


MN, Retreat participant




JAC Patrissi has been crafting creative solutions to relationship trauma and abuse for 29 years. She works as a couples counselor and trauma clinician and is author of Should I Stay or Should I Go: A Guide to Knowing If Your Relationship Can—And Should—Be Saved. (Penguin/Berkley 2011)

About the Location

Bird Bird Hill Farm Bed and Breakfast is a laid-back and peaceful 1825 Farmhouse in Ware, Massachusetts, the gateway to the Connecticut River Valley and the Quabbin Reservoir.

Bird Hill Farm is a synthesis of several passions: a more sustainable lifestyle, hospitality, arts, crafts, and community. Wide plank floors set a warm and inviting tone throughout this rustic farmhouse. The three guest bedrooms feature a sparse decor with an easy elegance. BHF is located right next door to Grenville Park, for long walks or a morning run in a beautifully forested setting along the Ware River. BHF is ideally located to explore hidden treasures at The Brimfield Antique Show; enjoy a fireside Feast at Salem Cross Inn; spend a weekend of racing at The Palmer Motorsports Park; be dazzled by the natural beauty of New England, and more