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Clinician Allies for Survivors™

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Effective Clinical Intervention with Survivors of Domestic Violence

A one-day workshop for clinicians and helpers

Facilitated by JAC Patrissi, Regi Wingo, Tanisha Arena 

This workshop is designed to help therapists, social workers, child protection workers and those who seek to play a supportive role for survivors of domestic violence and others who are navigating current or past abusive relationships. No prior knowledge of intimate partner violence is required.

Over the course of the day’s lectures, handouts, small group work and behavioral rehearsals, participants will:

• Identify and make distinctions among abusive and destructive relationships, including working with persons in romantic partnership with people who have untreated mental health issues, untreated addiction, chronic immaturity and/or abusive values
• Analyze the impact on the survivors of prevalent lenses for understanding domestic violence
• Analyze the impact of social responses to domestic violence
• Analyze a stage model of survivors’ experience
• Predict and prepare for interactions with survivors
• Identify and practice optimistic attunement with survivors of domestic violence
• Practice resilience-promoting responses and treatment plans for survivors of domestic violence 

Compassionate Accountable Conversations™

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Compassionate Accountable Conversations™

Facilitated by JAC Patrissi, Jason Patrissi, Regi Wingo, Tanisha Arena and Temperance Wilson

A 3-day learning intensive on holding transformative dialogues focused on compassion and accountability. This program will be held remotely on the Zoom platform. Inquire about schedule and rates. (Sliding scale rates available.)

Learning-based Objectives

By the end of the Compassionate Accountable Conversations learning intensive, participants will have:

  • Identified Grounding Guidelines for our learning together.
  • Reflected upon, identified, and shared our values and our priorities.
  • Reviewed and revised our roles as Accountability and Change dialogue facilitators.
  • Examined and practiced responder competencies required for responding to LGBTQIA+, BIPOC, youth and other marginalized communities.
  • Examined the dialogue facilitator’s role in the context of transformative justice.
  • Examined and amplified our readiness and effectiveness for responding to people who have caused harm.
  • Examined and practiced responding to the types of issues to expect from people who cause harm: the anatomy of dialogues of accountability and compassion.
  • Examined and practiced how to gain a more complete picture of the person’s story.
  • Practiced how to invite and shape accountable dialogue.
  • Practiced how to discern which 20% to focus on and how to shape the accountability dialogues.
  • Practiced faciliative dialogue skills and strategies in response to relevant scenarios, received strengthening feedback in a safe setting.
  • Examined resources to offer.

This training was more than worth the time. The facilitators worked as a team seamlessly and were so encouraging and supportive of the group as we grew together.


I learned more about my own abusive behaviors that were overlooked and how to practice mindfulness.


This training is a true gift. To those who struggle with oppression, inequality or control-this training will help you to not only speak your truth without compromising your integrity or kind heart , it will also inspire you to continue leading with it, encouraging light instead of dark. Justice over fear and Truth over Manipulation.


Compassionate Accountable Conversations lives up to its name. This training taught me very specific ways to engage with individuals using abusive behaviors, and help deconstruct the reasons behind the actions in a caring and holistic way. This is hard work, but through caring and supportive facilitation, I felt comfortable and well prepared to move forward in it.


This is a very valuable training for anyone wanting to learn more about the roots of abusive behavior, and how to talk with someone using abusive behaviors about behavior change.


I work for a nonprofit called CROP in Northern California. The three day training was very insightful and it gave me many things to consider and to add to my toolbox! I would highly recommend attending their workshop simply to learn different perspectives and to figure out ways you can apply some of the tools in the work that you do, as well as in your own life! It was a great experience!


The content was ancient and fresh at the same time. The facilitators worked from a place of deep wisdom and deep curiosity, all while keeping their promise of LEADING without dominating.

As a human being, you need this training. It will make you better as an individual and even better as a professional if you are in public service. 


This training is very comprehensive and increased my overall awareness of factors that contribute to intimate partner violence (social location, abusive values).


Be prepared to step out of your comfort zone.


Dialogues Across Differences™

Learn Critical Skills to Build Equity in All Communities

Facilitated by Tanisha Arena, Regi Wingo, E Bjorkman, JAC Patrissi and Amparo Cruz


How do we talk about race? Gender? Equity?

Enhance your skills in facilitating conversations across profound differences of experience, social location and understanding.

Learn the skills necessary to facilitate dialogue through an approach that will strengthen the abilities you already have.

Drawing on current research, ancient global wisdom teachings, Popular Education, Dialogue Education and theories of adult learning, we will practice shaping dialogue, and engaging in productive conversations across differences in a way that strengthens us all.


 In this training, participants will learn to:

  • Engage adults in a  process of learning and social change that employs a set of Popular Education principles that are respectful, empowering and accountable
  • Work with content about intersectional oppression, anticipating tensions to address common and predictable misconceptions, values and conflicts in our communities and culture
  • Find restorative resources for one’s self
  • Learn when to apply this learning and when best to hold back
  • Identify powerful facilitate questions and create opportunities to practice skills and receive feedback in a respectful, challenging, and energetic forum


Register for Dialogues Across Differences

After reading the description of this training, if you are unsure if this is a bunch of nonsense, this training is for YOU. If you feel you have mastered these skills, this training is for YOU. If you feel like you don’t know where to start, this training is for YOU.


Earlier this week I participated in a deeply thoughtful, healing and transformative training called Dialogues Across Differences facilitated by the incredibly experienced, engaging, dynamic and compassionate JAC Patrissi. She expertly guided us through a path of honoring our unique intelligences and perspectives and understanding how to create bridges to those who are very different from us in dialogues with simple practical skills that were backed up with in depth research and lived experience.

JAC has an understanding of intersectional identities, racial injustice, cross cultural relationships and trauma healing from her both mainstream and eclectic career path. I highly recommend connecting with her and engaging in her work for whatever way one is wanting to build bridges in your personal and professional life. What she offered is stirring deeply in me and helping me to see how to continue growing through engaging across differences in all aspects of my life.

Hilary Lake

In 44 years of training, I have never had a better training experience!


Campus Services employee, University of Massachusetts

This is a safe spot to explore the questions that you have been having as a healthcare professional and as a person in today’s America.


You have to do this.


This training really seeks to connect with all learners seeking to have hard conversations with others in a mutually respectful and intentional manner.


This was amazing, encouraging, insightful and full of great skills. 


Keep doing what you do.


This session was truly impactful for me to understand the multiple intelligences of my colleagues and to establish what is needed for us to engage in challenging conversations in authentic ways.

The Dialogue Across Differences Pattern has truly blown my mind, and I find myself using it not only in work settings but in line at the grocery store, at restaurants, and with family.



GANH was effectively able to meet us where we were as an organization and utilized a relationship-centered approach to help us create more common understanding and empathy.



For the past two days I’ve been acquiring tools to effectively communicate with people who have different values. JAC Patrissi, powerful, passionate, and a brilliant communicator, developed and facilitated this workshop. I highly recommend it to anyone seeking skills on building community, collaboration and respectful dialogue.

“JAC Patrissi, I can’t share this enough. I wish I could wave my magic wand and every person breathing could take this. It’s so important.

Jennifer McFeeters

Please know that I think very highly of you and Tanisha and see you both being leaders at the forefront of America’s Racial Healing. Actually, it’s a moral charge that neither of you can escape.

Denise Ellison


This training should be mandatory to all organizations in order to start the process of Change.


This was a wonderful training to help begin the work to dismantle difficult conversations and support progress in learning and inviting one into learning. These skills will take practice but they are soooo important! 


This training should be mandatory to anyone who wants to impart change on others but doesn’t know the steps or how to stay grounded in peace during the process. 


Anyone who works in human services, especially, should take this training.


I feel that this educational experience has provided lifelong skills that I can take with me in everyday life. Because of Dialogues Across Differences, I feel confident that I can help make a change.

Happy and Hard-to-Fool

Learn principles and tools to prepare you for happy and fulfilling relationships

Happy & Hard-to-Fool is an extraordinary opportunity to explore the nature of human relationships and make yourself a stronger, more successful partner and self-advocate.

Learn when to work harder, and when to stop working so hard. Together we let go of the messages that don’t serve us, and embrace the power of our wisest, most joyful selves in loving connection to others. This workshop is helpful for young women new to intimate partnerships, and for more mature women who are sorting through their relationship histories. The skills we practice will also strengthen your family and professional connections. If you have been in any kind of relationship with family, friends or intimate partners who have unresolved trauma, mental health issues, untreated addiction, or chronic immaturity, or who have been emotionally or physically coercive or abusive, this retreat will be especially helpful to you.

Happy & Hard to Fool


• Build relationships that are clear,              satisfying, and mutually loving
• Learn how to insist and why
• Know when to stop trying and why
• Gain supportive connections
• Support other women in your                   community

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Can They Really Change? Can We?

A Curriculum for community members and professionals who want to learn to interrupt, manage and help transform abusive values in the people we work with and share community with.

Facilitated by Tanisha Arena, Regi Wingo and JAC Patrissi

This approach to deepening our understanding of violence and coercive control is presented as an accessible framework that invites us all to examine our relationship to colonial derived values of white supremacy and other forms of superiority and dominance. 

In an interactive format, we examine what works with people who use abuse tactics and how to orient ourselves in a way that engages compassionately without colluding. The curriculum was derived from practitioners and survivors throughout MA, and designed by JAC Patrissi.

By the end of these two half-days on Zoom, participants will have:

  • Identified and practiced recognizing distinctions among conflict models, lenses for understanding IPV, abusive manipulations, patterns, and values;
  • Identified how to engage abusive partners without enabling abusive behavior;
  • Chosen preferred strategies for maintaining appropriate boundaries and limit-setting with abusive partners;
  • Chosen preferred strategies for identifying and mitigating risk as applied to CEDV and SVS;
  • Identified how structural inequalities influence abusive partners’ view and experience of CEDV and SVS programs;
  • Practiced acknowledging inequalities while stressing accountability and practiced being mindful of how our own social location impacts our effectiveness;
  • Anticipated the impact of abuse on survivors’ experience of CEDV and SVS services;
  • Identified how to engage survivors in a way regarding their partners that affirms their experience;
  • Identified abusive partners’ minimization strategies related to the impact on kids;
  • Heard basic structure, summary guidelines, standards/timeframe/rules/effectiveness for Intimate Partner Abuse Education;
  • Identified further training topics/points of collaboration.  

“In thirty years I have not heard this material. It is fresh, practical and eye opening.”

Janet Collins


“I felt like I wanted to take a class in every idea presented. It is a MEAL. And her delivery is so transparent and easy to follow. I could listen all day—I did! And I never got tired. Usually I leave trainings early. I was disappointed it ended.”

Sean M.


A Curriculum for Substance Use Disorder Treatment Providers

Facilitated by JAC Patrissi, Becky Lockwood, Erin Miller, Regi Wingo, Tanisha Arena and Sean Donovan

Even seasoned professionals and advocates will learn from this innovative set of frameworks that helps us examine who becomes violent in their intimate partnerships, and what interventions help promote change. The workshop includes skill building that can be applied to working effectively with anyone who misuses power. This is recommended for anyone in the helping professions who comes into contact with people who can be abusive and aims to help in understanding and responding to people who perpetrate domestic violence.

This workshop examines who becomes violent in their intimate partnerships, and what interventions help promote change. The workshop includes skill building that can be applied to working effectively with people who are abusive that also dealing with addiction or substance use disorder. Participants should have a fundamental knowledge of SUD, as this is geared to SUD professionals who want to expand their skills and knowledge base to work more effectively with people who use violence in their intimate partnerships.

By the end of this training, participants will be able to:

  • Identify and practice recognizing abusive manipulations, patterns, and values; Make critical distinctions between healthy relationship conflict and intimate partner violence
  • Identify how to engage abusive partners without further enabling their abusive behavior
  • Describe their preferred strategies for maintaining appropriate and effective boundaries and limit-setting with abusive clients
  • Identify how structural inequalities influence abusive partners’ view and experience of mandated substance use treatment and/or intervention for perpetrating domestic abuse
  • Practice acknowledging clients’ inequalities while stressing their accountability
  • Define their own social location and practice being mindful of how it impacts their effectiveness in working with their clients
  • Anticipate the possible impact of abuse on survivors’ that working with their abuser could trigger
  • Assess their understanding of survivors in a way that affirms their experience;
  • Identify abusive partners’ minimization strategies related to the impact of their abusive behaviors and values on their partners and kids
  • Clarify their understanding of the relationship between mental health and the perpetration of domestic abuse
  • Distinguish the relationship of childhood trauma and the perpetration of domestic abuse.

Undoing White Supremacy in the Workplace™

Facilitated by Regi Wingo, Amparo Cruz, JAC Patrissi and Tanisha Arena

A workshop designed to help foster joyful equitable workplaces through an examination and restructuring of racial power dynamics.


Holding Space™

Helping white people understanding the oppression of BIPOC.

JAC Patrissi ’89, is a White woman doing anti-racism/anti-oppression work with a consortium of Black, Indigenous, People of Color (BIPOC). During the workshop, JAC will help us understand anti-racism and formulate our roles in the Black Lives Matter movement. This workshop is geared towards White women taking a first step in our journey as White people to understanding the oppression of BIPOC.

JAC will help us understand the faces of oppression, and how to orient ourselves as White women to the leadership of BIPOC women. As such, it is important to take these first anti-racism self- education steps within our “cohort” before engaging in more work in cooperative formats under the leadership of BIPOC. Our cohort is intended for White women who attended Bryn Mawr College.

This formula, taking a first step in a White cohort, was designed with Black women leadership at Growing A New Heart who request that White women take some steps at self-education first, before engaging with BIPOC, as a sign of respect and also as an appropriate division of labor.

If a BIPOC woman desires to attend these first steps geared towards self-education about Whiteness, she is more than welcome. We request that men do not enroll in this space, as we will be exploring the history White women have had in movement making regarding their relationship towards White men and BIPOC women, and we would like to hold ourselves in self-awareness.

Mobilizing Your Community™

Effective approaches for motivating and organizing toward common goals

Facilitated by JAC Patrissi, Tanisha Arena, Regi Wingo, Amparo Cruz and select facilitators 

Community Mobilization includes a set of planning tools and skills to strengthen your ability to work with diverse communities towards common goals. These tools are especially helpful when forging coalitions across divides of social location.

Storytelling for Change™

Telling the story of your work to extend your message and motivate supporters

Facilitated by JAC Patrissi

“Don’t you know yet?
It is your light that lights the worlds.

— Rumi

We invite you to join us in a creativity workshop aimed at strengthening the ability of all staff to tell the essential story of the work we do in a way that is brief, natural, and compelling. Together, we will explore how audience, character, conflict, and calls to action impact our message. We will clarify our own understanding of the kind of change we seek through the work we do and the message we want to impart.

We will learn simple ways to use our voice and bodies to convey our message naturally. During the session, we’ll tell our stories to one another in small learning groups in a supportive, safe environment. Our facilitator JAC Patrissi is a professional storyteller and author. As a former writing teacher at Choate Rosemary Hall, she coaches development and social change professionals in storytelling, runs storytelling events and regularly tells nonprofit essential stories through film, newspaper, radio, and local television.


“I went to a large conference on using creativity in our field, attended by a wide variety of nonprofit membership. This workshop was not the keynote, but should have been, as it was hands down the best thing about the conference. What I learned over the few hours in the workshop has completely changed how I communicate the work of the nonprofit I work for. One other thing stands out for me at one point JAC shared with us a storytelling ritual that she was given by some women she had worked with in North Africa who had asked her to share the gift with others she worked with. One of the young women in the room called her out on cultural appropriation and was quite rude about it. I felt myself getting angry. When JAC responded, she was not defensive. It was like there was not a defensive bone in her body. I may have learned more about leadership from that interaction than I did about storytelling for change, if that is possible!”

— Janice Leisenring, Maryland


“As a visual artist who works with survivors of domestic violence, I have had the honor of collaborating with JAC on an art exhibit and storytelling event. JAC’s role with the participants was as a healing presence and guide, coaxing out their stories into words that could be shared with others. It has been a privilege to watch JAC work her magic with this. Through her guidance, each participant was able to tell a powerful, moving story of their experience. The stories often started out incoherent and rambling, as an emotional release. With JAC’s gentle guidance, the words came together in a way that the participant was able to feel truly heard, possibly for the first time. JAC then worked with the participants to weave the stories into a moving and enlightening performance. I witnessed these participants as they travelled through their stories, transforming as they went. Additionally, this profound work created a bond with the audience, who then also became a part of the healing community.  JAC has the sophistication, the skill and the heart that makes this level of connection possible. Without exaggeration, everyone’s lives were changed after each of her facilitated storytelling events — the lighting and sound people, the audience, the storytellers, me.”

— Babs Mayer, Artist and Advocate


BIPOC at the Center

Re-examining our approach to mental health in the context of White Supremacy

Facilitated by Tanisha Arena and JAC Patrissi

We make recommendations for a process of mental health decolonization and expansion to BIPOC community integrated models of self care and treatment. We teach the skills to dialogue with humility across differences of social location.

Violence Prevention in Colleges and Universities

Growing a New Heart is excited to partner with colleges and universities that are motivated to transform their campus’ culture, policies, and practices.


Too often, campus violence prevention programs place the emphasis on victims and response services; we work with campuses to shift their focus and develop the skills necessary to address the people causing harm and the conditions that encourage those behaviors.

Growing a New Heart trainings use the Compassionate Accountable Conversations and Dialogues Across Differences frameworks. These frameworks include practice-informed skills and global wisdom teachings rooted in transformative justice practice that are used in MA Department of Public Health certified Intimate Partner Abuse Education settings and the A Call For Change national helpline for people using the tools of coercion and abuse in their intimate partnerships.

The programs below are offered individually or combined for a coordinated community response.




Can They Really Change? Can We? — Athletics

The NCAA requires that all student athletes and athletic staff receive annual training on gender-based violence prevention. This workshop will engage students and coaches in identifying abusive values, look critically at the cultural norms that support imbalances of power, and develop the skills necessary to interrupt harmful behaviors in themselves and their peers. Training workshops for Coaches/Athletic staff will be in a separate session that will include facilitation content and skills to continue the conversation
and compassionate accountability work with their teams.

*Training is most effective in smaller groups (i.e. by sport). Training time is 1.5 hours minimum.*


Compassionate Accountable Conversations: Greek Life

Greek Life organizations are often recognized by their peers as leaders in their campus communities and at high risk for creating environments where abusive behaviors are condoned rather than condemned. This workshop will examine what risk and protective factors exist in their specific organizations and how they can become leaders in sexual violence prevention through enacting compassionate accountability individually and collectively.

*Training can be done as a single workshop but is most effective as a series. Staff assigned to overseeing Greek Life organizations will be offered a tailored training experience to be able to hold students and organizations accountable and evaluate changes in the campus


Can They Really Change? Can We? — Faculty & Staff

In both small group settings (i.e., department meetings) and/or in large scale audiences this workshop will work with faculty and staff to develop skills to incorporate trauma-informed practices in their classrooms and interactions with students. This training
will support participants to utilize compassionate accountability in their experiences with students and colleagues.

*Minimum time for one-time faculty/staff workshop: 1.5 hours


Can They Really Change? Can We — Administration/Campus Leadership

Using a framework grounded in best practice and with a strategic planning focus this training opportunity will work with administrative leadership to examine their own values and belief systems as well as the institution’s policies and practices that seek to address gender-based violence.

*This can be done as a series or as a one-time workshop.

Minimum time for one-time workshop: 2 hours


Dialogues Across Differences — Student Leadership

Students learn the skills and content needed to have meaningful dialogue across extreme diversity of opinions related to sexual consent and gender based violence.

Policy and Procedures:

Through consultation hours, our team will work with Title IX, Student Conduct, Campus Police, and Administrative Leadership to:

Review policies, procedures, and practices regarding sexual violence prevention and response and provide guidance for implementing best practices

Review climate survey and provide guidance

Review annual security report (Clery) and provide guidance

Assist with large-scale synthesis

Direct one-to-one work with Students

Offer compassionate accountability sessions for emerging adult students who have been
determined to have caused sexual harm/violence to another student.